Train Wreck? Hot Mess? Who Cares! Academy Awards Gay Replay!!

                                                    As your Cyber Main Gay, you know I’d never miss the Academy Awards!  It’s truly a gay Holy day that keeps me glued to the TV.   Long?  Boring?  Crazy?  It doesn’t matter!  Add two hours of Red Carpet fashion drama commentary prior to the broadcast and stir.  You’ll have have one of the best wicked glamour cocktails ever!  Every year there’s the “Who’s hosting” drama to make sure we tune in!  Who will give the craziest speech?  Participant or Presenter?  Who’s drunk?  Who feels shunned by the Academy?   Who will be arrested for DUI after the Governor’s Ball? LOVE LOVE LOVE IT!  Hosting the Academy Awards must be  a daunting task.  The Academy took a break this year from people who are funny for a living, like  Alec Baldwin, Steve Martin and Whoopi Goldberg.  They opted for eye candy Anne Hathaway and yummy James Franco to attract a younger demographic.  Both very talented actors indeed!  How did they do?  The Hollywood Reporter said “Is it a bad idea to have actors as hosts?  NO.  It was spectacularly bad. ”  Ouch.   As a stylist I give them a 10 for image!  Anne Hathaway was spectacular in all 8 gown changes during the telecast.  Her best?  Archival Vintage  Red Valentino she wore  on the arm of Valentino himself!   I got gay chills!!  James Franco looks good in anything he wears except for the “Diamonds Are a Girl’s Best Friend” pink gown.  Not his best color!  I admire their courage for taking it on!  The craziest moment for me was Kirk Douglas presenting Best Supporting Actress.  It was like  Grand Pa’s keeper fell asleep, and he escaped to present at the Academy Awards.  At 94 he’s still gorgeous!  What an actor!  Best dressed men and Presenters?  Jude Law and Robert Downey Jr!  I love it when men don’t automatically go to the black tie uniform.  They looked great in blue and their presentation was beyond genius!  Loveliest moment?  Staten Island PS22 chorus singing “Over the Rainbow.”  Thanks Judy Garland for leaving us that legacy!


Best Dressed Women?  Red was definitely the color of the evening!  Jennifer Lawrence In Calvin Klein and Sandra Bullock in Vera Wang,  Spectacular!  Show Stopper?  The stunning tangerine Atelier Versace worn by the ultra skinny Jennifer Hudson.  She looked so fab I almost called Jenny Craig during the awards!  Their point system really works!  I decided to finish my popcorn before making the call!  My favorite actress of the evening who wins Best Everything-Hair-Makeup-Gown is  Reese Witherspoon  in black and white Armani Privee.    Perfection!     Just so you know the main difficulty for stylists during this special day is make up and  lighting.  The event begins with natural daylight and ends late,  virtually in the dark at the post Oscar Balls.  It’s a nightmare.  Add HDTV and it’s a holy terror!  A good example of why we need to be careful is Sharon Stone.  The normally stunning face of Dior cosmetics has on a little too much concealer and foundation that makes her look older than she is!  She has amazing skin that’s not apparent  in this photograph.  The choice of dark eyes and lips accentuated the problem as well.  It’s a lesson for us all.  Make up is important and lighting is everything!  Well here’s to the 83rd Academy Awards!  Already looking forward to 84th……….

And the Oscar goes to……………You Gorgeous!













GPS For Aging! Hurry Up Bill Gates!!

Girls,  I’ve been crazy getting my book ready for publication!  The book, which is the first in 3, chronicles my journey to the top of the lipstick pyramid and all the life drama that accompanied me on the way up!  I’m 19 on page one,  ending with me at age 39.   If you ever want intensive therapy, writing a book about yourself should be a definite option.  The number of Beauty Witches trying to keep me down and the incredible number of “Mr. Rights” I sent packing caused some major reflection last night, while I was using my Clarisonic cleansing brush ( with Lancome’s Absolue Premium Bx foam cleanser.  I stopped and looked at my face.  With the book fresh on my mind, I thought, “I look pretty good to be almost 50, with all I’ve been through in my life. ”  Would I want to be 30 again?  No!  Would I like to have the 28 inch waist again? Yes!  While I’m on the subject, I must get something off my chest!  Sex and the City 2!  I love these girls who are now full fledged women!  Since I am the new up and coming gay Carrie Bradshaw, I took offense to the age jokes that dominated all the film reviews.  Now the plot was a little crazy, but the main emphasis on how the girls are ready for assisted living?  What?  Just like you, I didn’t miss an episode with advice on how to handle dating, careers and relationships.  These fabulous beauties have gotten older.  So what!  What’s wrong with us?    Now don’t get me wrong, my column focuses on how to be your best including keeping father time at bay.  Does that mean I should make Kim Kardashian my new hero because she’s young?  That would be a polite, “No.”


As fate would have it, I turned on the  NBC Today Show, sipping  my first cup of morning coffee, and Meredith Vierra is interviewing Tracey Jackson, author of Between a Rock and a Hot Place! Why 50 is not the New 30.  Granted we do look younger today, due to incredible health and dermatological technologies, but our life experience continues even if our faces and bodies don’t show it.  Inside vs. outside?  Seismic changes!  Are we having to care for our parents now?  Did we divorce and find ourselves dating in this new environment?  Loss of job looking for work in this youth oriented market?  It’s enough to make you confused and depressed if your expectation is that at 50 you should feel and act like someone 30.


Tracey said we need to take care of our health first, followed with changing parts of our lives that aren’t working for us any more.  If we have 30 more years on the Earth, how do we want to spend it?  What’s our plan?  Stay in a horrific marriage?  A job that’s sucking the life out of us? Not me!  And knowing you girls, you don’t want it either!  Tomorrow is seconds away!  It’s time to plan just like we did in our 20’s.  What do we want to do?  How do we want to spend our valuable time?  Here’s the interview so you can see it for yourself.


I know what I need!  I need the new GPS system for aging to help me know where I’m going.  Just like you, I want to look good yet I want to be remembered for making a difference in the world.  The friends I trudged this road of life with helping each other every step of the way.  Thanks Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte and Samantha for showing us that when the life gets tough, the girls can throw on their Jimmy Choo’s and get it done together!









Channeling Love 2011- The Best Valentines Ball Ever!

As your Cyber Main Gay, it may come as no surprise to you that I love fantasy.  Love it!  After seeing the Wizard of Oz for the first time at 4 years old, I’ve always wanted to go “Over the Rainbow.”  I know that’s over the top, even for me, but I can’t help it!  Unlike Dorothy, I’ve worked in the beauty industry for 30 years, and I’m not afraid of witches,  good or bad.  I’m accustomed to those wicked  girls!  I can totally understand having a cat fight over Ruby Slippers!  There are a few witches that I’d like to melt with water, but you’ll have to wait for my book to read about that!  Growing up in a small city in North Carolina in the 1960’s and 70’s, I would constantly imagine myself as one of the characters in my favorite movies and TV shows to escape the boredom.  Just like Samantha Stevens on Bewitched, I wish I could twitch my nose and transport myself to those fabulous imaginary TV locations.  Thanks to the magical couple Jillian Manus and Alan Salzman, my wish finally came true!!  I was lucky enough to attend their spectacular Valentines Day Ball–“Channeling Love 2011,”  the 6th annual glamorous black tie event raising hundreds of thousands of dollars for the Stanford Cancer Center.  The gala started as a tribute to Alan’s mother, Helen Salzman, who survived cancer with the help of the Center.  With a ticket price of $1500 per person and with every penny going to cancer research, Jillian and Alan are able to raise hundreds of thousands of dollars each year.

My magical journey begins as I pull up to their beautiful Atherton, California mansion.  As I arrive, 8 handsome gentlemen, costumed as characters from the  popular 70’s show “The Love Boat” offer to valet park my car.  Wow.  I’ve always wanted to be Julie the Cruise Director!  As I ascend up a red carpet at least a mile long (or so it seemed), I pass through a gigantic TV and a rainbow.  An  actual rainbow!!  Oh Toto!  I have a feeling we’re not in Atherton any more!  I’ve entered the magical  land of television past!  My ruby red path is lined with too many televisions to count, all playing classics like Good Times, Charlie’s Angels, Gilligan’s Island, The Brady Bunch, CHIPS . . . .  They’re channeling all my favorites!!  A few steps further and I’m stopped dead in my tracks!  There it is!  I’ve always wanted to take a ride on that!  It’s the mod colored bus from The Partridge Family!  I’m getting ready to have a big gay fit!!  Is David Cassidy in there?  I can’t breathe!  After a few deep breaths,  I walk through the front door and see Jillian and Alan being photographed with their beautiful children.  Now I had heard of Jillian because she’s famous in the literary and business world, but we’d never met.  Since I’m covering the party for my column, I was so fortunate to have a few moments with Jillian and Alan before the party is in full swing.  My fantasy continues as I look at the incredible white jeweled gown she’s wearing.  I knew immediately it was custom couture.  She dreamed and designed this gown and designer Mark Zunino made it a reality.  As I look down, I see white Jimmy Choo heels.  Perfection.


On a serious note, Jillian told me “This party is a blessing.  Blessings manifest through people! ”  I love that!  During her on-stage appearance, Jillian noted that the guests blessed them so that they could pass it along to the Stanford Cancer Center.  She described the center as “the most amazing place where patients are people and they are cared for from their hearts to their heads to their bodies.”  This definitely is a huge blessing for many!  Jillian also spoke to me about her work to empower women.  I could spend all year writing about this amazing woman, so I’m sure you’ll hear more about her in future columns.    Jillian’s husband Alan, CEO of VantagePoint Venture Partners, is very handsome in elegant black tie, bone-shaped studs and guy shoes that are every bit as beautiful as Jillian’s Jimmy Choos.  When I asked him about this being the 6th annual event, he told me it has become an institution of help!  I asked about the party planning, he laughed and said, “I’m married to the Genie!”  Jillian and special event master Robert Fountain created this incredible fantasy.  Jillian told me, “This  flash back to TV favorites was a nod to a time when things were simpler.”  She’s absolutely right.  Everyone at this party has the look of happiness from another era. Big eyes filled with child-like innocence.  Laughter everywhere.   As we finish speaking, I begin to wish  that these two generous warm souls could be my Fairy Godmother and Father!  Unfortunately I left my magic wand in my other handbag!  As I continue my journey the surprises keep popping up with TV stars, yummy food and every kind of drink imaginable. Here are some pics so you can see me help Lucy in the chocolate factory from I Love Lucy, square dancing with Grannie and Jed Clampett from The Beverly Hillbillies, laughing with Roseanne Rosannadanna and a Conehead from SNL, vamping with Morticia and Gomez from The Adams Family, flirting with Gilligan and Ginger from Gilligan’s Island, flexing muscles with Ponch from CHIPS and kissing Archie Bunker just like Sammy Davis, Jr. did on All in the Family in the 70’s!!  What a fabulous night.  I don’t want it to end!  Unlike Dorothy, I don’t want to click my heels together 3 times and say “There’s no place like home.”  I want to stay in TV Land with my new magical Fairy Godparents helping rid the world of cancer!  Thanks Alan and Jillian for your generosity and the best party I’ve ever attended!!!  Here’s the link if you want to donate [add link]

Happy Valentines Day Gorgeous!














Is the clutter in your life making you fat? Do you face your stuff or stuff your face? Find out!


Hi Ladies! So your Cyber Main Gay has been very busy with the NEW “ASK HARVEY” advice column for Betty. Look for the first video installment next week! Thanks for all the facebook messages and twitter drama! So many questions to choose from. I’ll try to get to them all. In the mean time, I’ve come across a new idea about losing weight. Like many of you, I’ve tried every diet on the market. I’ve decided that beauty is not a number. Not your age or dress size. It’s about finding a healthy weight and a radiant complexion!


While pondering this question, I was so fortunate to meet Dorothy Breininger, one of  the expert organizers on A&E’s Emmy-nominated TV series “Hoarders,” and discover her new book, STUFF YOUR FACE OR FACE YOUR STUFF: The Organized Approach to Lose Weight by Decluttering Your Life which just hit May 7th.
Dorothy recently lost 75lbs. Her new book focuses on getting healthy via the same de-cluttering and organizing mindset she brings to her work with clients and on the show. Dorothy talks about her journey a bit in this wonderful book trailer:
Here is a bit more about Dorothy’s story:

As one of the stars of a successful TV show, a three-time recipient of NAPO’s “Most Innovative Organizer Award” and a high-energy, sought-after national speaker, Dorothy Breininger’s career was soaring. Yet underneath her sunny disposition Dorothy carried around a secret shame of her own–food addiction. It wasn’t until the third season of “Hoarders” as she was talking to people with hoarding issues that she had an epiphany. Just as these people were buying, collecting, and hoarding stuff to fill a void, lessen anxiety, and reconnect with happier times in life–so was she. But instead of hoarding possessions Dorothy was hoarding fat on her body and it was making her very unhappy. It wasn’t until she realized that she had to tackle her demons head-on that Dorothy learned to face her own clutter, and lost 75 pounds in the process.


Pretty amazing! My big gay life is full of over whelming clutter! Dorothy helped me see my clutter has categories- Emotional, Physical and Environmental clutter. Who knew? Stack of unpaid bills? Clothes everywhere? Toxic relationship[s]? Sound familiar? In the US, dieting is going down and weight is going up. Are we all so stressed and overwhelmed?I know for myself that a box of Chees-Its is constantly calling my name. Moderation is obviously not my middle name!


Check out Dorothy’s book and see if it applies to you! If not you, we all have girlfriends with clutter drama! I did and I’m glad to say that I’ve lost 28 pounds. The funny thing is that I’m finding more happiness too. Thanks Dorothy!


Look for ASK HARVEY next week!



Great skin NOW for under $15!

All right girls! On a tight budget? Let’s get down and dirty. Well, not really since we’re talking skin care. The key is SIMPLICITY. Less is more? Not more money though thankfully. If you’re one of my beauty junkie friends who need the 12 step regimen to satisfy the Goddess in you, obviously this column may not be your cup of tea. However, you may add some of these products to your beauty arsenals as you please.  Ready? Put some lip gloss on those gorgeous lips of yours because we’re going shopping. Get into your car and set your GPS for your favorite discount or drug store. If you’re an online girl just Google the following products for the best deal. Don’t forget to look for the coupon’s of the moment on Groupon. Here’s your shopping list:


Harvey’s Best Budget Busting Skin Care Buys Under $15


Cetaphil Gentle Skin Cleanser- $5.97

Best all around cleanser for ALL skin types. Even the most sensitive of skins.


Neutrogena All In One Acne Control-$11.99

Hydrates, clears blemishes, including past acne discoloration all in one step.


Garnier Nutritioniste Skin Renew Dark Spot Corrector-$14.99

All over brightening and skin renewal to alleviate sun damage. Reveals a more radiant, even complexion.


Neutrogena Ultra Sheer Dry Touch SPF 45-$7.00

Best sunblock ever. Invisible to  the feel and touch. Beautiful light matte finish that provides all day protection. Make up compatible.


L’oreal Collagen Moisture Filler Cream-$9.98

Day and Night cream all in one. Beautiful hydrating, line filling and smoothing formula.


Burt’s Bee’s Tinted Lip Balm-$6.99

Moisturizing lip balm and beautiful all in one.



2 in 1 eye cream plus brightening concealer. Great for touch ups as well.


These inexpensive miracle face fixers will help us stay gorgeous and help us stay on budget! Next month I’ll let you know about best budget body products!


See you at Target girls!







I love women. I especially love fiery, funny, smart, outspoken women who are courageous enough to put their authentic selves out into the world. With no apologies, I might add, thank you very much! When I meet them I immediately want to jump into their back pocket or yummy handbag and watch them work their magic. I met one of these special Pixies just a few weeks ago! Settle in girls-It’s time for Harvey’s tea & back story!  Well, a few months back you might recall that I wrote a column on Christina Haag,  the fabulous author of the book “Come To The Edge“. Remember the delicious book about her love affair with JFK Jr.? Now out in paperback with a shirtless John John on the cover? If you don’t here it is!

One morning while multi-tasking with coffee, an Erno Laszlo Hydra Therapy Mask and my lap top, an email popped up saying “Match Maker”. Long story short, Christina matched me with the incredible Vicki Abelson. After only 10 minutes, we had exchanged at least 20 emails and connected by phone! Yes girls, I’m in love and awe with this blonde brainy beauty!!! You’ll love her too! She’s been so supportive through the launch of my book “Blush: The Unbelievably Absurd Diary Of A Gay Beauty Junkie”!


Vicki Abelson’s Women Who Write literary salon features well known author’s, singer/songwriters, and emerging rising stars who read and perform from their intimate personal work! Vicki personally facilitates the festivities so you know you get the REAL story that didn’t end up on the page! Love it! Women Who Write is as much about the discussion between artist and audience as it is about the reading itself! This safe nurturing interplay lends itself to open, provocative discussion! Or as Vicki would say “A perfect storm of shared human experience”! Now you should know that Women Who Write isn’t just for women or just writers! Vicki is here to help promote artists! I’m so fortunate that she’s asked me to do a reading of “Blush” in November! More to come on that! Check her out!




Yes ladies! It’s that time of year again. Although winter is in high gear, you’re all very aware somewhere in the back of your subconscious that spring is just seconds away. As your Cyber Main Gay, it’s my yearly duty to point out to you that the warm weather will be here soon enough and it will be time for swim suits……and yes girls………this year’s biggest trend………SHORT SHORTS.  Before you down a whole bag of Oreo’s from the stress of it all, I’m here to give you hope. You can do this. I’ll tackle swim suits in another column to avoid any fashion nervous break downs.  First of all, they’re re not necessarily your MAMA’S DAISY DUKES!  These new modern SS’S come in variety of lengths, fabrics, textures, solids and prints so that you can participate in this trend. Be confident! Legs definitely are the feature focus so if you got them flaunt them. If you have leg issues like varicose veins, the dreaded cellulite, or super skinny legs then you’re in good company. Most women have some issue in this area. A fresh waxing plus some self-tanning cream instantly gives your legs a lift. You can do squats at the gym and hide veins with waterproof leg makeup like Dermablend as well. It’s up to you!

As far as HARVEY’S SHORT SHORT RULES, I only have three:


  1. If your ass is hanging out, they’re too short. Unless you’re in private with your significant other doing some fabulous moves on your newly installed stripper pole that Santa brought you for Christmas. Otherwise don’t wear them.


2.Short Shorts with pleats never work. They always make you look heavier and hippier or like the girl on the golf course that we can never understand. Is she or isn’t she? So I don’t care if manufacturers offer these pleated nightmares in a store near you! Back away from the pleated shorts!


  1. Shoes with Short Shorts. Flats for day, Wedge or heel for night. This always assures you that they can be appropriate. The only places this does not apply is Miami and Los Angeles. You girls always do what you want any way!


Here’s my early pick of short short cuteness from J Crew! ] link her] For girls on a budget, keep your eyes on Target! Next week I’ll be tackling the swim suit fun we’re getting ready to have.

Put that Oreo down immediately and go wax!