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Serious dilemma this week. My kids had a semi-formal dance at school on Saturday night. I spent the requisite amount of time buying my daughter ten different fit-n-flare dresses and then returning nine of them. Luckily, my son was much easier to buy for and his outfit came together with only three visits to Bloomingdales.
The standard deal is that your kids are invited to a pre-party before the big dance. The pre-party allows parents to see their kids in the semi-natural habitat amongst their peers. And, it’s a full on photo shoot complete with tri-pods, lenses and video. Cameras are everywhere.
We were lucky enough to be able to get to my son’s pre-party, take photos, not embarrass him or utter any words out loud. Good showing by us. We moved on to our daughter’s pre–party and proceeded to mingle with other parents and take a few hundred photos of our daughter, her friends and even a few with their dates.
So far, so good. Both kids had fun at the dance, we met a few of the other parents and it was overall a good experience. Here’s where the problem began. On Monday, parents starting sharing photos online. Certainly, this is a nice gesture.
However, along with the hundreds of photos of our amazingly photogenic teens, there were a few candids of the parents. And, guess what? One horrible, unauthorized photo of me. Oh no. There I am in all my middle age glory, unedited and from a really tough angle. My mind starts racing. There it is and what do I do?
My initial panic involved some of my recurring internal dialogue that ensues when confronted with an unflattering photo.
“Is that what I really look like?”
“Two choices here: give in and head straight to Eileen Fisher (the “Nuclear Strategy” coined by my beauty mentor Sarah L.) or start battling to not look any worse (the “Reinforce the Aging Dam” strategy).”
“That’s it – I really am going Paleo!”
My secondary conversation with myself focused on the best coping mechanism known to middle aged women and all married people; denial. I thought, “How can I make this photo go away?” If the photo is gone, then denial wins. I don’t have the option to delete photos in the shared album. So, I have to directly ask one of my daughter’s friend’s parents to kindly remove the offensive photo. And, I gotta find a way to do this that allows me to not come off as a total freak. Delicate balance.
Because I don’t know the parent who posted the photo very well and he’s English (possibly less tolerant of candid photo panic), I haven’t made a move. But it’s out there. And, with Prom a few short months away, I’ve got to get a plan so that this doesn’t happen again.
Welcome to my very first edition of CELEBRITY SNAPSHOT! 5 questions in 5 minutes that give you a deeper look at some of our favorite celebrities and what’s on their minds.
Who did I choose as my first interview? A woman who makes me laugh, think, love, and care all in the same moment. She’s the deliciously complicated mother, bestselling author, performer, producer, promoter, and talk show host, Vicki Abelson
For the past eight years, Vicki has been presenting the crème de la crème of the music and literary worlds at her celebrity-driven literary salon, Vicki Abelson’s Women Who Write. This is where she and I hooked up with my first book BLUSH: THE UNBELIEVABLY ABSURD DIARY OF A GAY BEAUTY JUNKIE! Her other guests are a “who’s who” of Hollywood: Norman Lear, Cloris Leachman, Michael Imperioli, Jackie Collins, Kevin Pollak, Ed Asner, Valerie Harper, Marilu Henner, Paul Williams, Mike Nesmith and Micky Dolenz to name but a few. I could name drop endlessly. She knows everybody! Her first book, five-star Amazon Bestseller, Don’t Jump: Sex, Drugs, Rock ‘N Roll…And My Fucking Mother, published by Carl Reiner’s Random Content, made the San Diego Book Review’s Best of 2015, was named One of the 7 Best Books By Or About Women, and #1 Best Summer Read 2016 by Amazon. Need a fab read? Get it immediately! Her weekly podcast, Vicki Abelson’s BROADcast: The Road Taken, can be heard on iTunes, Soundcloud, Stitcher and tunein. She’s so busy but I was lucky to get a few precious moments with this smart glamazon!
So here you go! Meet Vicki Abelson with her 5 in 5!
Vicki! What’s your fav thing about being a woman?
For me, it’s the permission to be sensitive, empathetic and openly express my emotions. I mean look at men, STILL, in 2017! We judge them if they cry. We’re given permission, and men are stuck.
What about the ongoing gender equality issues with women & Hollywood?
First, I’m all over Meryl Streep and her Golden Globes moment. I was so impressed and moved by her. Women & Hollywood continues to be interesting. Older male actors get sexier. We accept older men in leading romantic roles, but female actresses as they age go from romantic lead to playing someone’s mother and that’s if she’s lucky. And, there are less parts and more women competing for the roles. Stricter image criteria then men? Weight? Wrinkles? The double standard alive and well.
One show I’ve seen that’s doing a good job in this area is called “This Is Us”. One of the leads in the ensemble, Chrissy Metz, isn’t just a little heavy, she’s obese. She’s beautiful, and, having a sexy life. It’s thrilling to see this character struggling while living a funny and beautifully romantic story line. This gives me hope for the future.
Gender equality. What’s next?
Is it still about women’s rights? What antiquated thinking. Lines are getting blurred-more gender fluidity. Are we women? Men? Trans? We’re human!! A woman did run for President, and the show Transparent seems to be breaking down some walls, but women are still paid less than men for the same jobs.
Who’s your hero?
Hilary Clinton’s my hero. She’s spent almost her entire life in public service. I can’t believe how many times she’s been kicked to the curb but rises- brushes herself off- and keeps fighting. Brilliant, qualified and hardworking, is she warm and cuddly? No. Is she flawed? Yes. But aren’t we all?
What’s next for you?
I’m aspiring to broader platforms for my creative projects. My manager is about to shop Don’t Jump for episodic TV. Netflix, HBO or Showtime would work nicely. Don’t cha think? My Podcast? Bigger platform like NPR. The new Fresh Air? I love interviewing celebrities about their journey. Firstly, I’m a fan girl. But, I’m also fascinated with how they managed to break through and be successful. How they merged creativity and commerce. I find they always have a tool, or tools, which guide their path. I learn from them where to refocus. I hope my listeners do, too. Sharing what I learn is one of my greatest joys. And, then there’s simply the fact they have “it”- that indefinable something which makes them irresistible. I want to be around them, dammit, don’t you?
Vicki! You’re fabulous. You know I’m a beauty junkie. Any tip you want to share about staying gorgeous?
Crest White Strips! I smoked for years and these little strip miracles took that damage and years off me. Not that fake too white look, rather, a natural, whiter smile. It’s made me more comfortable with myself in life, and in photos.
You will fall in love with Vicki. My life is better just knowing her.
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Stay fabulous till next time gorgeous!