All posts by Harvey Helms

As an avid Beauty Junkie extraordinaire, Harvey’s love for makeup and skincare began at age 11, when acute acne became his daily battle. The ridicule and bullying he received on a daily basis, empowered him to become the person he is today. Through a twist of fate, Harvey started his professional career, as one of Revlon’s first male beauty advisors and quickly rose through the ranks to eventually become their Global Director of Beauty in New York. His quirky and meteoric cosmetic rise is chronicled in his first book, Blush: The Unbelievably Absurd Diary of a Gay Beauty Junkie. With his much anticipated follow up to BLUSH – BLUR: HARVEY’S UNBELIEVABLY ABSURD DIARY CONTINUES- He picks up the drama where he left off! His next career stints, in Product Development at L’Oreal, and Executive Director at Donna Karan New York, his traumatic 9/11 experience, his accidental foray into the fashion eye wear industry, his crazy love life, and finally, a solution that sends him on a journey in recovery. Through an unfiltered, raw lens, Harvey reveals some of his deepest demons, as he finally makes his trip down the yellow brick road.

Meet Mr Manners Thomas Farley- Celebrity Snapshot with Harvey Helms

                                                   Meet Mister  Manners Thomas Farley

Whenever I have a question about etiquette or the right thing to do in a sticky situation, I always reach out to my friend Mister Manners, Thomas P. Farley. He’s one of the nation’s best-known arbiters on matters of contemporary behavior. As a speaker and workshop leader, he works with companies to help their employees achieve greater levels of understanding and communication in the workplace. As a regular guest on the NBC Today show, among other media outlets, he speaks to TV audiences on issues of common consideration and modern-day manners. On top of that, he’s kind, fun and super adorable!! Need advice? Check him out at www.whatmannersmost.com and follow him on FacebookInstagram and Twitter.

Mr. Farley was nice enough to help me with some of my biggest issues! Applying makeup in public, trolling on the internet, and of course his fav beauty tip for fabulous hair!

Here’s his 5 in 5 Celebrity Snapshot!

  1. Where does your passion for etiquette & manners come from?

Growing up in a family of six, consideration and respect were essential means of keeping the peace. Not that my siblings and I were perfect, but “please” and “thank you” were encouraged, while phrases such as “shut-up” were outright banned. Nightly family dinners were a requisite part of life, as were lively conversation and storytelling. Toss in my sixteen years of Catholic schooling (most of that time spent wearing a necktie) and you have the basis for my career today, one dedicated to advocating thoughtfulness and getting along.

  1. What do you think about women who apply their lipstick in public? Like at a dinner table in a restaurant? On the subway?

I believe it’s important for both men and women to be ready to take on the world before they open their front door to start their day. That means setting aside the time to complete one’s skincare, hair and beauty routine at home. I don’t take issue with someone who needs to reapply a bit of lipstick in public—as long as it’s not during a meeting or over a meal. Makeup should never make an appearance when food is present. But lipstick is where I draw the line….applying eye-liner, blush or mascara out in the open is a definite no-no. More than anything, it presents you as disorganized and unprepared. If your make-up needs a pick-me-up, head to the rest room to do so.

  1. In this day of social media trolling- Any advice on how to handle haters?

Cultivate real, in-person friendships that nurture your sense of self. Pay less attention to how many likes your posts get or how many ill-willed comments strangers hurl your way. Those are people who clearly have nothing better to do, and I genuinely feel sorry for them.

  1. What is the biggest etiquette faux pas that you see in your everyday world? What should people do to change it?

As a daily rider of the New York City subway system, I think it’s a case study in how etiquette is pushed to the brink when we are stressed or placed in uncomfortable situations. Behavior of otherwise good people can turn quickly selfish, with actions such as pushing to get on, shoving to get off, playing overly loud music, cursing, blocking doors, manspreading, staring, not giving up one’s seat to someone who might need it more than you… and yes, putting on full makeup. And yet, I have also witnessed some of the nicest interactions you can imagine on subways: locals giving tourists sightseeing advice, young children offering a seat to someone who is elderly, people keeping their cool and offering help when a fellow passenger falls into them if the train has jerked to an unexpected stop. It’s a reminder to me that even in the least pleasant of situations, patience and common courtesy make such a difference. Being rude and getting angry is no path to feeling at peace.

  1. With the fabulous head of hair you have- And I know that you NEVER kiss & tell- But will you share your secret beauty tip that keeps it so handsome?

Awwww, thank you, Harvey! As anyone with curly hair will tell you, it can be a blessing and a curse. Walk outside on a super-windy day and suddenly your well-styled coif looks like an out-of-control ’fro. Manageability is always an issue with curly hair. I think that’s the reason so many men opt keep their wavy hair short and why so many women live for their blowouts. But with the right haircut—I go to Devachan, in New York, which cuts only curly hair—the right products (I like Shea Moisture’s Coconut & Hibiscus Curl & Style Milk), and a bit of practice and patience, a head of curly hair can go from looking like a mop to looking like a million. (Most days anyway.) And on the days when it doesn’t, you just have to embrace that day’s look, and hope others will too!

Good advice indeed! Until next time! Be kind to each other!

Xo

Harvey

                                       Celebrity Snap Shot by Harvey Helms

 

 

The Food Police (3 min read) — Millionaire’s Digest

Written By Millionaire’s Digest Team Member: Angi Abercrombie Founder & Owner of: Abercrombie & Fitness Millionaire’s Digest Team, Contributor, Family & Life and Health & Fitness Writer Titles and job descriptions are a sophisticated tangled web of ambiguous words to show folks what one does. We plaster titles on our social media pages, resumes and […]

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What’s Your Take? (Responsive Question) — Millionaire’s Digest

Question: Does Money Buy Happiness…? Our Take: “Most people will instantly think no but it’s a much harder question than that. We believe it really depends on who you really are. For example, let’s say happiness for you is paying money to not watch someone suffer through hard times. Now you can make a lot of money and hate all […]

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A Day In the Life Of A Silicon Valley Mom By Guest Blogger Denise Geschke

 

    Denise Geschke

Serious dilemma this week. My kids had a semi-formal dance at school on Saturday night. I spent the requisite amount of time buying my daughter ten different fit-n-flare dresses and then returning nine of them. Luckily, my son was much easier to buy for and his outfit came together with only three visits to Bloomingdales.

The standard deal is that your kids are invited to a pre-party before the big dance. The pre-party allows parents to see their kids in the semi-natural habitat amongst their peers. And, it’s a full on photo shoot complete with tri-pods, lenses and video. Cameras are everywhere.

We were lucky enough to be able to get to my son’s pre-party, take photos, not embarrass him or utter any words out loud. Good showing by us. We moved on to our daughter’s pre–party and proceeded to mingle with other parents and take a few hundred photos of our daughter, her friends and even a few with their dates.

So far, so good. Both kids had fun at the dance, we met a few of the other parents and it was overall a good experience. Here’s where the problem began. On Monday, parents starting sharing photos online. Certainly, this is a nice gesture.

However, along with the hundreds of photos of our amazingly photogenic teens, there were a few candids of the parents. And, guess what? One horrible, unauthorized photo of me. Oh no. There I am in all my middle age glory, unedited and from a really tough angle. My mind starts racing. There it is and what do I do?

My initial panic involved some of my recurring internal dialogue that ensues when confronted with an unflattering photo.
“Is that what I really look like?”
“Two choices here: give in and head straight to Eileen Fisher (the “Nuclear Strategy” coined by my beauty mentor Sarah L.) or start battling to not look any worse (the “Reinforce the Aging Dam” strategy).”
“That’s it – I really am going Paleo!”

My secondary conversation with myself focused on the best coping mechanism known to middle aged women and all married people; denial. I thought, “How can I make this photo go away?” If the photo is gone, then denial wins. I don’t have the option to delete photos in the shared album. So, I have to directly ask one of my daughter’s friend’s parents to kindly remove the offensive photo. And, I gotta find a way to do this that allows me to not come off as a total freak. Delicate balance.

Because I don’t know the parent who posted the photo very well and he’s English (possibly less tolerant of candid photo panic), I haven’t made a move. But it’s out there. And, with Prom a few short months away, I’ve got to get a plan so that this doesn’t happen again.

 

Celebrity Snapshot-Vicki Abelson

CELEBRITY SNAPSHOT

WITH

HARVEY HELMS

Welcome to my very first edition of CELEBRITY SNAPSHOT! 5 questions in 5 minutes that give you a deeper look at some of our favorite celebrities and what’s on their minds.

Who did I choose as my first interview? A woman who makes me laugh, think, love, and care all in the same moment. She’s the deliciously complicated mother, bestselling author, performer, producer, promoter, and talk show host, Vicki Abelson


For the past eight years, Vicki has been presenting the crème de la crème of the music and literary worlds at her celebrity-driven literary salon, Vicki Abelson’s Women Who Write. This is where she and I hooked up with my first book BLUSH: THE UNBELIEVABLY ABSURD DIARY OF A GAY BEAUTY JUNKIE! Her other guests are a “who’s who” of Hollywood: Norman Lear, Cloris Leachman, Michael Imperioli, Jackie Collins, Kevin Pollak, Ed Asner, Valerie Harper, Marilu Henner, Paul Williams, Mike Nesmith and Micky Dolenz to name but a few. I could name drop endlessly. She knows everybody! Her first book, five-star Amazon Bestseller, Don’t Jump: Sex, Drugs, Rock ‘N Roll…And My Fucking Mother, published by Carl Reiner’s Random Content, made the San Diego Book Review’s Best of 2015, was named One of the 7 Best Books By Or About Women, and #1 Best Summer Read 2016 by Amazon. Need a fab read? Get it immediately! Her weekly podcast, Vicki Abelson’s BROADcast: The Road Taken, can be heard on iTunes, Soundcloud, Stitcher and tunein. She’s so busy but I was lucky to get a few precious moments with this smart glamazon!

So here you go! Meet Vicki Abelson with her 5 in 5!

Vicki! What’s your fav thing about being a woman?

For me, it’s the permission to be sensitive, empathetic and openly express my emotions. I mean look at men, STILL, in 2017! We judge them if they cry. We’re given permission, and men are stuck.

What about the ongoing gender equality issues with women & Hollywood?

First, I’m all over Meryl Streep and her Golden Globes moment. I was so impressed and moved by her. Women & Hollywood continues to be interesting. Older male actors get sexier. We accept older men in leading romantic roles, but female actresses as they age go from romantic lead to playing someone’s mother and that’s if she’s lucky. And, there are less parts and more women competing for the roles. Stricter image criteria then men? Weight? Wrinkles? The double standard alive and well.

One show I’ve seen that’s doing a good job in this area is called “This Is Us”. One of the leads in the ensemble, Chrissy Metz, isn’t just a little heavy, she’s obese. She’s beautiful, and, having a sexy life. It’s thrilling to see this character struggling while living a funny and beautifully romantic story line. This gives me hope for the future.

Gender equality. What’s next?

Is it still about women’s rights? What antiquated thinking. Lines are getting blurred-more gender fluidity. Are we women? Men? Trans? We’re human!! A woman did run for President, and the show Transparent seems to be breaking down some walls, but women are still paid less than men for the same jobs.

Who’s your hero?

Hilary Clinton’s my hero. She’s spent almost her entire life in public service. I can’t believe how many times she’s been kicked to the curb but rises- brushes herself off- and keeps fighting. Brilliant, qualified and hardworking, is she warm and cuddly? No. Is she flawed? Yes. But aren’t we all?

What’s next for you?

I’m aspiring to broader platforms for my creative projects. My manager is about to shop Don’t Jump for episodic TV. Netflix, HBO or Showtime would work nicely. Don’t cha think? My Podcast? Bigger platform like NPR. The new Fresh Air? I love interviewing celebrities about their journey. Firstly, I’m a fan girl. But, I’m also fascinated with how they managed to break through and be successful. How they merged creativity and commerce. I find they always have a tool, or tools, which guide their path. I learn from them where to refocus. I hope my listeners do, too. Sharing what I learn is one of my greatest joys. And, then there’s simply the fact they have “it”- that indefinable something which makes them irresistible. I want to be around them, dammit, don’t you?

Vicki! You’re fabulous. You know I’m a beauty junkie. Any tip you want to share about staying gorgeous?

Crest White Strips! I smoked for years and these little strip miracles took that damage and years off me. Not that fake too white look, rather, a natural, whiter smile. It’s made me more comfortable with myself in life, and in photos.

You will fall in love with Vicki. My life is better just knowing her.

Check out all things Vicki Abelson at the link below! You’ll be glad you did!

http://www.vickiabelson.com/

Stay fabulous till next time gorgeous!

xo

Harvey

BLOG #9 HHB GIVE GREAT FACE! PART 3 PRIMERS

Primer! Another quasi cosmetic-skin care hybrid that contains skincare ingredients but formulated to stay on top of the skin to improve makeup wear. This category at first glance looks easy but it’s not. I’m super picky about primer because so many can break you out or make makeup application harder! Crazy I know!

Primer is also another reason I decided to introduce my own brand. The following are my best picks to perfect skin prior to makeup application. Primers may be worn with or without foundation allowing your color products to apply easier and wear all day!\

BEST ALL IN ONE PRIMERS

HARVEY HELMS BEAUTY

CAMERA READY FACE PRIMER

This VELVETY gel elixir disguises pores and fine lines in seconds. Smoothed on with or without foundation, Harvey’s formula dries to a soft age defying matte finish, keeping your makeup flawless all day. Great worn alone for makeup free Saturdays. Perfect for all skin types! For a sun-kissed glow choose our Radiance Primer – same great formula with a hint of color!

HARVEY HELMS BEAUTY

EYE & LIP PRIMER

Lock your shadow and lipstick in place all-day! This double-duty primer keeps eye shadow from creasing and lip color from feathering. The creamy formula evens out eye lid color & lip texture for beautiful color application.

BEST REDNESS PRIMER

CLINIQUE

Superprimer Face Primer – Colour Corrects Redness

This lightweight, oil-free primer helps create a smooth, even canvas for foundation. It color corrects for a range of complexion concerns, especially redness, so makeup glides on evenly and stays true for a neutral, even start.

BEST PORE/OIL CONTROLLING PRIMER

Bobbi Brown

Skin Smoothing Pore Perfector

Smooth skin and minimize the look of pores with Bobbi Brown’s new Skin Smoothing Pore Perfector. This multiaction formula helps to reduce the appearance of visible pores, uneven skin texture, and excess oil over time. Visible pores can be a struggle for any skin, and this new skin perfector will not only blur the complexion, but also primes it for effortless foundation and concealer applications. Formulated with algae extract, glucosamine, and a unique blend of powder, it leaves skin looking smooth, even, and poreless while feeling natural and fresh.

 BEST ILLUMINATING SPF PRIMER

stila

Stay All Day® 10-In-One HD Illuminating Beauty Balm

 Broad Spectrum SPF 30

I know this is a BB but it works great as a primer!

Lighten up! Add a touch of illumination with this revolutionary, oil-free formula that uses the smallest particle of coated pigments for seamless, smooth coverage. Ideal for all skin types and skintones, this beauty balm gives skin a lit-from-within glow. SPF

30!

I hope this helps everyone get primed! If there’s a fab primer you love let me know! Also if you want to share any priming tips I’d love to hear those too!!!

Xo

Harvey