Category Archives: Reflective

The New IT Bags From Amsterdam! Meet Hester van Eeghen

All my girls know that as your Cyber Main Gay, I take the subject of accessories, very seriously. They can make or break any look. Especially when it comes to hand bags and totes, business or casual. I’m always on the hunt for the latest and greatest in work bags because so many of the accessories I see for women in the work place look….well….like a boring man should be carrying them. Many of my clients work in the legal profession so I’ve had to find options that are beautiful and functional,  while at the same time saying  “confidence and style “,without being over the top.  Fortunately for me I have global girlfriends! My friend Debbie Ruth, who I met through author and screen writer Tracey Jackson, introduced me to the new IT bags that are just beyond delicious1 Ladies! Meet Hester van Eeghen! The hot accessory guru from Amsterdam!  Here’s the Tea and Back story! About 7 years ago, Debbie was staying in a small chic hotel in Amsterdam, whose yummy gift shop was carrying Hester’s bags. Debbie was always on the hunt for great bags, especially for work and Voila! She found Hester! Needless to say, Debbie either made a trip once a year or had friends traveling stop in Amsterdam to bring her the latest and greatest. Fast forward, like so many successful women I know, Debbie knew that her love of these bags was also her business dream of a life time!  Debbie is now working with Hester to make these bags available in the US!


Who is this design wizard? Hester van Eeghen is regarded as one of the most influential Dutch designers of the century, with designs that are coveted globally with a cult like following! Made of the finest grade Italian leathers, HVE handbags are designed in Amsterdam and handcrafted in Italy by the most skilled and sought after hands in fashion!  Hester’s creations are characterized by architectural shapes, use of vibrant colors, and inventive functional systems. The design elements in her work are beauty, passion, shape, color, surprise, and exceptional quality. Fabulous!   Well ladies, there you have it! If any of you have discovered  other secret treasures please dish! We  all need to be in the  know! Also, if any of you are carrying any of those boring man bags I mentioned…well. You know what to do with them. Replace them with a HVE!



Hey Ricki Raccoon! New Hybrid Treatment Concealers to the Rescue!

I don’t know if life is becoming more stressful or maybe we’re just sleep deprived from getting the most out of this life, but it seems everyone I look at today  has some under eye darkness. Me included. Oh my gay stars what is happening? Nothing can make you look more tired and yes, bitchy, than under eye darkness. Add puffiness and you might as well be the old hag from Snow White! We must take care of this immediately! And No I don’t want you to cake on concealer. I think it makes everyone look older or worse, like a raccoon.  There’s a new generation of treatment concealing hybrids chalked full of  eye transforming ingredients that de puff, de bag, tighten  and lighten while seamlessly camouflaging any and all imperfections.  It’s not a new idea because when I was the Global Director of Beauty at Revlon, we had a first of its kind eye cream called ‘Brighten Up! Tighten Up! Fabulous pink tone elixir that was like 8 hours of sleep in a jar. Miss that cream! These new formula’s do the job with extra cosmeceutical  benefits without looking like make up!

Here are my new favorites to try!

Estee Lauder Idealist Cooling Eye Illuminator– Instantly lightens and covers darkness. Puffiness cooling  sensation with new porcelain applicator. Great for all skin tones in two universal shades. Lt-Med and Med-Deep.

Lancome Renergie Eye Multiple Action– Duo eye cream and concealing veil that lift, firm, lighten darkness while de-puffing and de-bagging! Instant results!énergie-Eye-Multiple-Action/1000527,default,pd.html?dwvar_1000527_color=Dark&start=1&cgid=whatsnew-renergie

Bobbi Brown Tinted Eye Brightener– Conceals and brightens all in one step. Easy twist up built in brush applicator. Can double as a high lighter. Several skin matching shades to choose from!

Dior Skin Nude – Looks like a traditional concealer but it’s anything but! Totally natural effortless application that adds hydration while behaving like an eye contour treatment. Bye Bye eye fatigue!

Now girls we should all look rested and revived like life is a piece of cake!



Kate Middleton? Lindsey Lohan? Kirsty Alley? Girl Reality Gossip!

Okay Girls, after admitting my Celebrity Apprentice guilty pleasure earlier this week,  I’ve decided as your  Cyber Main Gay that we need to super dish! There’s so much dishilicious gossip out there right now for us to sink our teeth into! I  want to know what you think! Who do you love? What star is making you crazy? Who are you sick  of hearing about? Who is your TV crush? Who do you feel sorry for? Is the Glee writing getting boring or is it just me?

Ready? 123-DISH!!!! Let’s do men first!  My TV crush?  Well there are two! Mike Rowe, on TLC’s “Dirty Jobs”, and Nathan Fillion, on  ABC’s “Castle”. Hunky and Yummy, don’t you think? My man crushes are really fueled by their charm and humor.  Although Mike Rowe has the bluest eyes ever! Remember girls that when handsome fades, smart and funny remain!  My girl crushes? Amy Poehler on NBC’s Park & Recreation and Mariska Hargitay on Law & Order SVU.  The same reasons as the guys! I’d choose funny every time but I love how assertive Mariska can be! Meow!!  Who do I love?  The future Princess of England  Kate Middleton! I will be in front of the TV at 4am with my crown on and plenty of tissue to watch the Royal Wedding!  I’m so impressed how Kate has handled herself under all that pressure.  Not just the paparazzi, but having  Queen Elizabeth as your Mother in law?  Kate’s  fashion choices have been beautiful!  The wedding gown designer is a secret but I secretly hope that it’s the late Alexander McQueen.  He was truly gifted. I hope that her marriage to Prince William is one where the fairy tale truly is ” Happily Ever After.”  Who’s making me crazy and who am I tired of hearing about can be put together.  Charlie Sheen. I miss “Two and a Half Men.”  He’s a great actor. When he’s playing himself and “Winning” it makes me crazy.  Or is it the redundant media coverage of Charlie that makes me crazy?  OOPS! I’m the media too. Oh that Charlie Sheen! He made me write about him!  It’s probably the “Tiger Blood. “Maybe I’m the one who’s crazy!

Who do I feel sorry for? Lindsey Lohan and Kirsty Alley.  Now hear me out! I know some of you are going to say “Lindsey will get what she deserves” and “Kirsty lost all that weight on Jenny Craig and gained it all back?” Lindsey seemed very sincere and remorseful on Jay Leno. She wants another chance. I guess Kirsty does too!  Putting herself out there every week on Dancing with the Stars? !  I wish them luck! I can’t help it! I love a comeback story.

Okay Girls! I’m all dished out! Let me hear from you! Who are your top picks?  Can’t wait to dish!



NORA EPHRON! The incredible woman who made me a writer has left the building!

Girls life is so short! Last night I’m reminded of this in a big sad way. As I am preparing  my Betty column to launch my new book “blush: the unbelievably absurd diary of a gay beauty junkie” the universe decided that our fabulous Nora Ephron is needed elsewhere in the universe. I’m sad to say that the person who inspired me to actually become a writer and publish this book died yesterday. When I read the first post about her death I couldn’t believe it! A world without Nora?  I sat, just starting forward into space, thinking how many times this one woman made me think, laugh, cry and gave me the courage to publish a book!  There will be at least a million posts about Nora because she has changed our pop culture lives in so many ways! I’m always surprised when people don’t know that she created some the most fabulous movie classics that we Netflix like “When Harry Met Sally”, Sleepless in Seattle”, and “You’ve Got Mail”. Everyone will be writing about all of her incredible accomplishments, and rightly so. I want you to know that Nora was a champion of all things women and gave back to help girls become who they want to be. And yes, I’m one of those “girls”.


My great friend and business mentor Kathi Lutton got the chance to be with Nora at the 2010 Fortune Magazine “Most Powerful Women’s Conference”. Kathi mentors women from other countries, who are developing ideas and business concepts to empower women to change the world! Nora was of course there lending support, expertise and inspiration to these young women on the journey to make this planet a better place! I want you to know that Nora Ephron was a humanitarian and gave back to help other’s  realize their own dreams. These pics from celebrity photographer Asa Mathat tell the story! Fortune mentee Susan Rammekwa is featured here in the pic! Susan was so grateful for all the love and advice that Nora gave so easily. It changed her life!


I will remember Nora for a million things, but mostly for her first and last books! My BFF Diana Kay Eaton had me reread Nora’s first books, “Crazy Salad” and “Heartburn” . These solidified my love of humorous, real writing that helped me complete “blush”. Finally, “I Feel Bad About My Neck” gave me the courage to be myself and find my voice in the world. Nora, I’m forever in your debt.


So girls, my hope is that Nora somehow gets the chance to read my book and  send me a message from the cosmos that says “I’m proud of you kid!”


Tearfully I say goodbye.

Rest in peace Funny Girl.

I miss you already.